When Style Grows And Changes With You

People go through fashion phases periodically throughout their entire lives. Once you get past the age where parents can stop choosing what clothes you’ll wear, we do a little experimentation with styles and combinations. Teens may have a goth phase, a punk phase, a retro phase, or a preppy phase. Then when we become full fledged adults and enter the workforce, our fashion sense undergoes another transformation. It’s funny what kind of trip down memory lane you’ll go on when you’re cleaning out your drawers and closets one day with the intention of donating clothes you don’t wear anymore.

This past weekend I was cleaning out my drawers and sorting through clothes I knew I wouldn’t wear anymore. I was surprised by the amount of clothes I still kept that date as far back as my teenage and early college years. There were a lot of tops that were of the spandex kind, lots of girly patterns, or sizes much too small for me to fit in anymore. For every shirt I folded up and put aside as the “give away” pile, I was immediately able to remember the times I had worn them.

Like any young and inexperienced kid, I thought I looked pretty cool in the clothes I wore then. I probably did, well, maybe some of them. There were some tops that made me question what I loved about them originally, or they were family gifts from many Christmases ago. There were pieces I wore repeatedly and there were ones I barely wore twice. Staring at the piles of clothes I knew I wouldn’t miss, I wondered why it took me so long to finally part ways with them.

Letting go of anything can be hard. There’s some nostalgia attached to the very object you’re having a rough time saying goodbye to, and it’s a reminder of what being truly youthful and carefree felt like. But like anything in life, you grow up, you change, and you move on.

Style comes and goes…

The very core of my personal fashion taste hasn’t changed all that much from when I was a teenager, like loving feminine clothes and still being very much drawn to floral patterns, but it has certainly evolved ever so slightly. I opt for soft, cotton blend shirts over the stretchy and clingy fabric of spandex tops. I prefer more minimal and subtle floral patterns on tops, unless it’s a skirt or dress, rather than the wild flourishes covering every inch of a blouse. Or some pieces scream pre-teen or teen and no longer fits in with the maturity and sophistication I have acquired over the years. There’s no doubt in my mind that I would look ridiculous wearing clothes fit for a teenager at my age now. Even if I didn’t and I somehow made those clothes still work for me, mentally, I would feel uncomfortable and go on thinking that something doesn’t feel right.

It may seem odd to think style can change and grow in the same way we do as people but it happens. The changes that occur to us on a personal level will eventually seep into the kind of clothes we’ll want to wear when we go outside. It’s a small reflection of who we are as individuals. I may miss the clothes that shaped my exterior appearance growing up, but I’ll feel better knowing someone else may find the same kind of joy I got out of wearing them. By clearing away what’s old and no longer needed, I make space for something entirely new.

Has your own style changed and grown with you over the years?

6 thoughts on “When Style Grows And Changes With You

  1. I need to clean out my closet every couple of years. I have a difficult time getting rid of old favorites, even if I hardly wear them anymore. There’s always the thought that maybe they’ll come back in fashion, maybe I’ll lose 15 pounds and fit in these again, maybe the great memories in those clothes will bless me with more great memories. But I always feel great when I do bag up old clothes and donate them; as much as I think I’ll miss them, I end up forgetting about them once they’re no longer in my closet.

    1. I do too! Not only are you getting rid of things that you’re not going to use anymore, but you’re also giving it away to someone who would want them. I also hardly regret giving away those clothes either. I feel like we had our time together and it’s time to let go. I find cleaning out closets and drawers on occasion to be somewhat therapeutic in its own way!

  2. Interesting post! I myself am going through an emo phase in my adult years, complete with dark lipstick. The nostalgia thing is quite true. I don’t think clothes maketh a man, but they sure do make lots of memories!

    1. Yeah, I think so too! You wouldn’t think clothes would be tied to our memories because it’s something you wear every day, but it can in the same way playing a video game or owning a favorite toy does. At least the memories those old clothes brought up were good ones. 🙂

  3. This! Exactly this! 🙂 I clean out my closet at least once a year, and I’m always struck by how often my tastes have changed. Like, at one point, I had a thing for tops with wide sleeves, bell sleeves, and such. Last year I realized that I hadn’t worn any of those tops in years, mainly because my work and home environments had changed and those sleeve styles just got in the way of everything. So, into the Goodwill bag they went!

    I think our style has to change, at least a little, as we “grow up.” And that’s not to say that someone can’t enjoy the same clothes at 30 that they wore at 18, but there’s a maturity in letting go of the past and accepting the new, even if it’s just through clothing. It’s an ideal to cherish.

    1. I agree! Growing and maturing even through the styles we wear may seem insignificant, but it isn’t in a way. It’s also about taking stock of the things we possess and realizing there’s no need to hold onto certain things anymore. There’s a freedom in just letting go and being fine with it. Sure, we’ll reminisce about it, but at the end of the day we know we won’t really miss it. I’ve also since replaced some of the clothes I gave away, so it’s nice to have new clothes to wear and enjoy! 🙂

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